In the last post, I introduced a few ways to work with your own dreams: by writing them down and journaling about your impressions and associations, by drawing them and by embodying the emotion the bring and letting it stay with you to mull over. There is another way that is so useful it deserves its own post. It’s a method called ‘bias control’ because it is intended to do just that: control for the inherent bias we bring to most of our own dreams. Although they always bring something new, we tend to see them in terms of what we already know and believe, so we are notoriously bad judges of our own dream worlds.
Bias control is an idea from Eugene Gendlin, who developed an experiential, body-oriented practice called focusing as a systematic way for people to sense into their body’s wisdom, and its responses to their current situation. He developed a method to let your body interpret your dreams, and suggested bias control for those wanting to work on their own dreams.
Dreams bring us back into balance
The practice is simple, but contrarian. It asks that you take the least-attractive, most aversive aspects of your dream, and experientially imagine being that way. This idea is in keeping with Carl Jung’s idea that dream are compensatory: whenever our view is too much one way, a dream will come that could help bring us back into balance. In his autobiography Memories, Dreams, Reflections, Jung gave an example of this. He dreamt his client was in a high tower, so tall that he had to crane his head back to look up at her. In fact, in his analytic work with her, he realized he had been looking down on her, and the dream helped set him straight.
In another example, a client dreamt about a good friend whom she thought was far too permissive with her dog, letting him run free in situations the dreamer deemed unsafe. In the dream, the dog is driving a car, doing a good job of it and having a lot of fun, but the dreamer was really anxious the dog will crash. She is annoyed at her friend’s nonchalance, so I asked her imagine having that more relaxed, permissive point of view, to feel what it might be like to have less worry. It was a good feeling to move a little in that direction, provided she didn’t take it too far.
Try being dream characters you don’t like
You can try this yourself any time you have a dream figure that you take exception to, and this tends to happen often. If you dream of an authoritarian prison guard, for example, you might consider where you could be more assertive or protective. If you dream of a meek, mousy little figure that makes you squirm with their obsequious nature, you might try out being a bit gentler and more humble. If there is an irresponsible crack addict in your dream, you might try on the idea of being less responsible, or where addiction plays a role in your life.
What happens when you take this contrarian path is that it leads out of your usual way of doing things. Gendlin said it doesn’t mean you need to become just like the figure in your dream that you despise, but that moving slightly in that direction might bring you something new that expands and changes you, and that this might be the dream’s very purpose.