Nervous system hybrid states and how they show up in dreams
Not all dreams are pure fight/flight, but much like our complex nervous systems they can express hybrid states. We are all familiar with the nightmares of being chased (flight response) or weighed down with helpless immobility (dorsal vagal response). These are fear-based dreams, but they take on a very different tone when imbued with a sense of safety.
At its most basic level safety allows for social engagement, a sense of being at home in the company of those we love and trust. There are also hybrid states, where how safe we feel can mediate how our nervous system responds. When we are immobilized with safety, this allows for stillness, intimacy and bonding. When we are activated with safety, this allows for excitement, sport and play.
The genius of the polyvagal theory developed by Dr. Stephen Porges is that it takes us beyond the simple categorization everyone rattles off without much thought – the well-known fight/flight/freeze paradigm. When naming and understanding our autonomic state, Porges puts safety first.
A neuroception of safety is automatic, not intellectual
What does Porges mean by safety? His polyvagal theory is referring not to literal safety, but rather, bodily-sensed safety. Many who experience activated nervous systems, fear responses and nightmares are not in any real, physical danger, but there is no way to convince them of this, at least not by simply saying so. Porges’ model stresses the neuroception of safety, that full-body sense which happens automatically, beyond conscious control, that allows our system to relax and repair.
When we are not experiencing rejuvenating embodied safety (a ventral vagal state), our dreams come as nightmares, as being chased or in aggressive encounters (fight/flight) or as helplessness immobility (often called freeze, those this word is not quite accurate). When our bodies feel safe, we dream of social encounters, of intimacy, adventures and play. Our dreams depict how safe or endangered we feel. As such, they can be a doorway to shifting these states at a deep level.
Autonomic state shifts are common — our nervous systems are always working to balance the need for safety and self-protection with those of social engagement, healing, digestion and the achievement of homeostatic balance. When our system perceives threat, things like digesting food or making love are luxuries our bodies senses we can’t afford… whether or not this is actually true.
Our sense of safety or danger is not always accurate
How do our bodies get this wrong? Much of the mismatch comes from early programming, from chronic exposure to neglect or trauma that creates nervous system responses that are either too sharp, too dull or a mixture of both. Those with complex trauma histories, for example, can perceive danger where none exists, or be blithely unaware of actual threatening situations and walk into danger without knowing it. Our dreams can provide both clues and solutions as they reflect our unconscious ANS responses.
During typical sleep, we shift states many times, alternating periods of deep restorative sleep with progressively longer period of dream-rich rapid-eye movement (REM) sleep. In these state shifts, we are most likely to become aware of our dreams and to be awakened by those that are particularly intense. Nightmares can disrupt sleep and affect mood, but they can also open the door to autonomic state shifts that can be lasting.
If we approach our dreams with curiosity, and begin to cultivate mastery and degrees of lucidity, we may be able to shift our dreamscape from a pervasive sense of threat to one of safety, changing our whole experience of the dreaming. This is easier to do that one might think. One chronic nightmare sufferer I worked with was able to turn a face her pursuers and discovered they were far less threatening than expected, and this changed the nature of her dreams. The chase dreams still visit at times, but now they have taken on more of an adventurous feel, one of excitement rather than terror – a similar activated state, but with more of a sense of safety.
Hybrid states show us that the programming our nervous systems received early in life may be tenacious, but it is also malleable. Change is possible, and dreams are one pathway to understanding and altering our habitual responses.
For more on this topic, join Dr. Leslie Ellis for a workshop on Nightmares and The Nervous System October 13, from 9:30-noon (Pacific)