Author: Dr. Leslie Ellis

Dr. Leslie Ellis is a leading expert in the use of somatic approaches in psychotherapy, in particular for working with dreams, nightmares and the effects of trauma. She is the author of A Clinician’s Guide to Dream Therapy (Routledge, 2019) and offers many training opportunities in embodied, experiential dreamwork based on her book. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, with a specialization in somatic approaches. Her dissertation on using focusing-oriented therapy to treat PTSD for refugees with recurrent nightmares won the Ernest Hartmann award from the International Association for the Study of Dreams. Dr. Ellis has a Masters from Pacific Graduate Institute and worked as a therapist in private practice in Vancouver, BC for more than 20 years. Her approach to therapy combines Jungian and focusing-oriented techniques. She was adjunct faculty at Adler University where she taught clinical skills and developed a trauma course for the Masters of Counselling program. She is a Certifying Coordinator and past president of The International Focusing Institute. For many years she has offered a Vancouver-based certification program for practicing therapists who want to incorporate focusing-oriented therapy techniques into their practice. Dr. Ellis has published numerous book chapters and journal articles on the use of focusing and dreamwork in psychotherapy. She has also presented her work to a worldwide audience. For example, she offered a keynote address for the 2020 online conference for the International Association for the Study of Dreams, has presented on nightmare treatment at MIT and was a featured speaker and panelist at the 2020 FOT (Focusing-Oriented Therapy) Conference. She also offers courses through The Jung Platform and is vice president of the International Association for the Study of Dreams.
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REM Rebound: Dream Intensification in Early Recovery in NOT a Bad Sign

The road to recovery from addiction has many challenges, but the intensification of dreams does not have to be one of them. The return of one’s dreams is normal, a good sign, and can be an ally in processing the upwelling of emotion that occurs during the recovery process.

Those who vow abstain from using their addictive substance of choice face many challenges in the early stages – cravings, loss of a familiar way of coping, boredom, periods of emotional intensity and a need to shift away from familiar habits and social patterns that went along with their substance use. What those in recovery don’t expect is to be further challenged (or helped) by their dream life.

Dreams of substance use are common among those in early recovery. They are often vivid enough to feel entirely real. For example, early in his abstinence from alcohol, ‘John’ dreamt of being at a party, carousing with his friends, downing a drink and reaching for another, firmly embedded in his pre-recovery life… only to wake and realize he had been dreaming. According to Kelly & Greene (2019), a ‘using dream’ leads to initial feelings of guilt and remorse, as if one had actually stepped off the wagon. This is typically followed by a sense of relief that the relapse didn’t happen in waking life, and that relief is a good sign.

Counsellor Aubrey Johnson, a student in my Embodied Experiential Dreamwork program, specializes in working with clients in addiction recovery. As her project for the class, she presented on the ‘using dreams’ of those in the recovery process. She said the research validates what she has often witnessed: the intensification of dreaming, especially in the early stages of recovery. In fact, these dreams are so intense they can be characterized as nightmares, and are a known phenomenon in addiction medicine.

One study (Millios, 2016) found that a full 84% of those pursuing sobriety were having substance-related dreams at 7 weeks’ abstinence. After a couple of months, the frequency of using dreams begins to diminish quickly, but they can revisit for a lifetime. Johnson says this make sense because recovery is also a life-long process. And although the study found REM rebound dreams peak at 7 weeks, she has seen the intense dreaming last for several months in some cases, and for the dreams to bring up challenging emotions associated with addiction.

 

What Induces Dreams of Using?

On a physiological level, REM Rebound accounts for much of the increased dream frequency and intensity. Many addictive substances, including alcohol, cannabis and benzodiazepenes suppress REM sleep and dreams. These substances can also disrupt natural sleep cycles, creating a deficit in REM/dreaming. When a person stops using a REM suppressant, their body immediately begins to make up for the REM deficit. Until natural sleep rhythms are restored, the person in early recovery will experience longer and more intense dream-rich sleep.

This explains why there are so many dreams, but why dreams of using? If Freud was right that some dreams express fulfillment of wishes, these dreams can be an unconscious reflection of the desire to use, and return to memories of euphoric experiences while under the influence. We tend to dream about powerful emotions, and especially those we repress, so it’s not surprising that memories of substance use will be woven into the dreams of those in recovery. It’s similar to the common experience of dreaming of one’s ex-partner in the weeks and months following a difficult break-up.

Addiction is now being understood not as a disease but as a way to self-regulate, often a response to trauma and overwhelming emotions (eg. Winhall & Porges, 2022). Addictive behaviors can stall emotional growth as challenging feelings are not being processed, but rather bypassed or numbed. The recovery process involves acknowledging hard feelings that have long been avoided, and learning alternative ways to be with and metabolize them. One of the functions of dreaming is emotional regulation; more turbulent feelings tend to express themselves in more intense dreaming. Rather than see this a problem, I suggest making the dreams allies in the recovery process, an aid to emotion processing. Encourage your clients to befriend the dreams, listen to them, welcome them, and in turn they will become friendlier, clearer and more helpful.

 

Are Using Dreams Helpful or Dangerous?

There is some conflicting evidence about whether dreams of using promote or prevent relapse, a great fear amongst those on that path to recovery. In keeping with the many theories of dreaming as a simulation, Kelly & Greene suggest using dreams may be a way of rehearsing situations that might tempt one to relapse, increasing awareness and motivation to stay sober. However, dreams of using can also increase cravings because they return the dreamer to a lived experience they may be missing.

Johnson, who works with the ‘using’ dreams of those in her practice, suggests some helpful practices for others who work with the dreams of those in recovery from addiction. She said it’s helpful to tell clients that using dreams are normal and highly prevalent, and they do not indicate potential relapse or that anything is going wrong. In fact, discussing the dreams can help the client struggling to adapt to abstinence by providing images that aid in processing the spectrum of emotions associated with the recovery process.

 

Kelly, J. F., & Claire Greene, M. (2019). The reality of drinking and drug using dreams: A study of the prevalence, predictors, and decay with time in recovery in a national sample of U.S. adults. Journal of substance abuse treatment, 96, 12–17. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsat.2018.10.005

Millios, R. (2016). Dreams in Recovery: “Using” and Relapse Dreams – What Do They Mean? American Addiction Centers. https://recovery.org/pro/articles/dreams-in-recovery-using-and-relapse-dreams-what-do-they-mean/

Winhall, J., & Porges, S. W. (2022). Revolutionizing Addiction Treatment with The Felt Sense Polyvagal Model. International Body Psychotherapy Journal21(1).

Dream to remember, dream to forget, dream to feel better…

Dreaming after an emotional experience might help us feel better in the morning

Although dreaming has been implicated in the consolidation of memories, it seems we also dream to forget. In a similar way that sleep has been shown to clean our brains of clutter, a recent study supports the notion that dreaming helps us rid our minds of non-essential memories so we can focus on what is important to us, but only if we remember our dreams.

Zhang and colleagues (2024) recently completed a study that supports an active role for dreaming in reducing next-day reactivity associated with emotional memories. Their research also suggests there is a mechanism in which dreams enhance salient emotional experiences at the expense of less relevant, or neutral memories. In short, dreaming helps us remember and process what’s important to us, and to forget what is not. But again, only if we recall our dreams.

This is an interesting feature of the study – the results only applied to those who recall dreams. We know that just because we don’t recall dreams in the morning, this does not mean we did not dream during the night. Most of our dreams are forgotten; it has been suggested that dreams do their job even when we don’t recall them. However, this study demonstrates an important role for dreams that we remember upon waking – a possibly a reason it’s worth cultivating greater dream recall.

According to the authors: “This study asks why we dream. Building on prior work demonstrating a link between sleep and the processing of emotional memories, we examine whether dreaming alters overnight memory and emotional reactivity on an emotional picture task. We found that participants who reported dreaming exhibited an emotional memory trade-off, prioritizing retention of negative images over neutral memories, a pattern that was absent in those who did not recall their dreams. Moreover, dreaming was associated with decreased emotional reactivity to negative memories the following day, with reduced reactivity tied to more positive dream content. We provide the first empirical support for dreaming’s active involvement in sleep-dependent emotional memory processing, suggesting that dreaming after an emotional experience might help us feel better in the morning.”

This article juxtaposes the continuity hypothesis of dreaming with that of dreaming as emotional regulation. “The Emotion Regulation theory of dreaming is different from the Continuity theory of dreaming as it proposes that dreams lead to a functional change in emotion regulation during waking.” The authors note a dichotomy in the prevalent theories about dreaming – those who consider dreaming a passive activity ascribe to the continuity of dream affect before, during and after dreaming. Those who ascribe to Emotion Regulation or Simulation theories suggest dreaming plays an active role in changing one’s experience (albeit by different mechanisms: Emotion Regulation by downregulating negative emotions, and Simulation Theory by preparing for future experiences).

The current study is an attempt to test whether dreams actively support the transformation of emotional reactivity by measuring changes after a night of sleep in both those who report dreams and those who do not recall any dreams. If the dream recallers have decreased reactivity the morning after dreaming, this would support the sleep-to-forget, sleep-to-remember (SFSR) hypothesis. SFSR is supported by previous studies which show that REM sleep preferentially preserves emotional memories over neutral ones.

However, the authors note that results of research into the effect of REM sleep on emotional reactivity are decidedly mixed – some studies show increased regulation, others, increased arousal. In surveying existing literature, the authors reached the conclusion that “dreaming might play a role in both the memory consolidation and the emotional regulation aspects of emotional memory processing.”

To test the change in next-day emotional reactivity after memorable dreaming, 125 women were studied, in a mix of sleep lab and at-home settings. The authors were able to replicate prior reports of an emotional memory trade-off in which sleep preferentially enhances consolidation of negative versus neutral memories. They suggest their study “highlights the critical role of dreaming in emotional memory processing during sleep.”

The study also supported prior research showing that emotional reactivity to previous experiences decreases after a night of sleep, but again, this effect was only present in those who remembered their dreams. In participants who did not recall dreams, no significant differences were found between negative and neutral memory performance. This interesting distinction was flagged as “remarkable” and an important topic for future research.

 

Zhang J, Pena A, Delano N, Sattari N, Shuster AE, Baker FC, Simon K, Mednick SC. Evidence of an active role of dreaming in emotional memory processing shows that we dream to forget. Sci Rep. 2024 Apr 15;14(1):8722. doi: 10.1038/s41598-024-58170-z. PMID: 38622204; PMCID: PMC11018802.

Trauma-Related Nightmare Type Linked to Higher Suicide Risk

Adding to the robust literature linking nightmares to suicide risk, a new study offers an important distinction for clinicians: of the 3 nightmare types identified by researchers, only trauma-related nightmares are linked to a greater risk of suicide (Youngren et al., 2024). Idiopathic and complex nightmares (comorbid with sleep and breathing problems) do not lead to higher suicide risk.

The study is important for a couple of reasons. First, it supports the theory of differing nightmare types and their resulting effects on mental health. Second, it provides guidance for clinicians who treat trauma, nightmares, and suicidality. The study also found that those who suffer from trauma-related or complex nightmares are more likely to seek treatment than those who experience idiopathic nightmares.

The study used a sample of 3,543 veterans who had previously attempted suicide. The main goal of the study was to examine the relationship of nightmare type to both suicide reattempt and treatment utilization. Multiple logistical regression analysis showed that when controlling for anxiety and depression, only trauma-related nightmares significantly predicted suicide re-attempts.

The authors speculated that the difference in nightmare content for trauma-related nightmares may account for their greater links with suicide. Trauma-related nightmares tend to be more direct replication of traumatic events, and are more easily recalled than other types of nightmares. Therefore, those who have frequent trauma nightmares are more likely to re-experience their traumatic memories. This can lead to life-threatening despair on its own. And it can also create higher levels of distress that interfere with sleep. Insufficient and poor-quality sleep have been clearly linked to suicide, with or without nightmares.

The authors advocate for nightmare treatment: “Regardless of the mechanism, our findings support treating nightmares to potentially reduce suicide risk.” They note that although prior studies how shown that both psychotherapy and medication failed to reliably help with PTSD-related nightmares (e.g. Peppard et al., 2013; Raskine et al., 2013), the outcome picture is altered when nightmare type is considered. According to a Youngren (2021), when nightmares are divided by type: “trauma-related nightmares appeared to decrease after nightmare-specific therapies such as ERRT, whereas complex nightmares did not.”

This is good news for clinicians. Nightmares directly related to trauma are most highly linked to suicide risk and also appear to be the most amenable to treatment. More good news – although previous studies suggest nightmares are vastly undertreated, the current study shows that those with trauma-related nightmares are more likely to seek treatment than those who suffer from idiopathic (less dangerous) nightmares.

Also noteworthy: the term ‘complex nightmares’ to denote nightmares associated with sleep-disordered breathing (SDB) is a new one. Such nightmares can also be trauma-related, but are associated with poorer dream recall. More research is needed to understand the distinctions between these complex states and their implications for treatment.

Overall this important study is yet another reason for clinicians to ask about nightmares, especially for those patients with suicidal ideation or previous attempts. Another step is to determine whether the dreams depict memories of specific traumatic events. If so, nightmare treatment is not only warranted, but according these recent finding, may reduce both the nightmares and the risk of suicide.

 

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References

Youngren, W. A., Bishop, T., Carr, M., Mattera, E., & Pigeon, W. (2024). Nightmare types and suicide. Dreaming34(1), 1.

Youngren, W., Balderas, J., & Farrell-Higgins, J. (2021). How sleep disordered breathing impacts posttrauma nightmares and rescripting therapies. Dreaming, 31(1), 20–31. https://doi.org/10.1037/ drm0000161

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How Does My Dream Mean?

Feel into the dream images to arrive at your own answers

Yes, you read that correctly. So many people come to me with a dream image or story and want an immediate answer to the question: what does it mean? It’s natural to want to know this because dream images are often so strange and powerfully evocative that we sense there is meaning in them.

But I want to impress on you that meaning in dreaming is not the same as an intellectual understanding or a goal-oriented response to the image. Dreams almost never present a life situation and spell out what you should do. They are asking you to do something quite different – to feel into the image and arrive at your own answers.

When friends ask me what their dream means, I think they are often looking for a particular solution, a quick explanation that will make the dream make sense. But this isn’t how dreams convey meaning. When we’re dreaming, our prefrontal cortex, the part of our brain that thinks logically and makes plans for the future, is mostly asleep. That’s why we can’t seem to find our gate at the airport, act in a decisive fashion, or even notice that we are in the strange world of dreaming. Dreams don’t come from a place of logic but instead are mediated by a different set of neural correlates, the same as those active in daydreaming. It is an imaginative and creative state that moves forward in non-logical steps.

Dreams are the same – they are a world apart from logic, characterized by images and infused with emotion. So to really understand a dream, you need to feel your way into the image. The meaning will come through your body and not necessarily in words, but rather in a felt sense of meaning and of depth. Dream meaning takes you deeper than words, so to really grasp it I suggest you first revisit it experientially, immerse in the felt meaning and then you can try to express this in words, images, music, movement, or whatever medium seems best.

This creative expression will point to the meaning of your dream, though may never quite capture it all. This is because we never have perfect recall of our dream-state experience. There is always a sense of having left far more insight and experience in the dream realm than we can recall. We are left with snippets and fragments and can piece a sense of the whole together from there. It will be imperfect, much like a piece of writing or drawing will never be exactly like what you are trying to express. But the attempt to express is what will bring you closer to how your dream expresses the felt meaning it carries.

 

Meaning and memory sources are not the same

Sometimes dreamers think they understand the meaning of their dream because they can identify the memory sources of their dream. If they saw a scary movie the night before dreaming about a ghost, they’ll say the movie is why they dreamt about a ghost.

This is only partly true. Dreams do pick up ‘day residue’ and also older memories as source material. I see these as a palette for our dream-maker to draw from and recombine so that the dream weaves images that are uniquely meaningful to us. I believe particular images are presented in a way that evokes a nuanced kind of felt sense that we will recognize. Dreams draw from images from our past and yet mostly create new images that are hybrids of things we know and things that are new. Just because you can recognize the memory source doesn’t mean that you already know what the dream means. You’ll still have to feel your way into the image, to understand it at an embodied level.

Dreams express themselves through an embodied emotional experience and can only truly be understood if you re-enter that experience and allow it to speak to you. If you’re looking for a tidy, simple explanation of your dream, you are not going to find it. Or if you do come up with an explanation like that, it may satisfy your intellect, but it won’t be complete. Instead, it will be a delimiting version of what your dream might mean. Like a felt sense, the dream always means more and can open us up to much more than we can immediately say about it. This is part of what makes them so deeply evocative.

Dream Program Doubles Confidence in Working with Dreams

The reviews are in! Those who just completed the year-long Embodied Experiential Dreamwork program last year said their confidence in tending dreams is now at 8 out of 10 – up from a class average of 3.7 at the start of the program.

If you are considering taking this program, you may be interested in what our recent grads had to say about it. Here are some of the comments from our exit survey:

“Since taking this program, personally, I now pay more attention to my dreams because I am more fully at ease with them and  have various ways of being with them – many ways of opening the doors that can lead to possible meanings.

Professionally, I can offer clients these ways of helping them be with their dreams, particularly bad dreams and nightmares. For those considering taking this program: it is well worth the time, energy and effort. There is so much specifically and practically to learn about dreams and how to work with them.”

– Tom Larkin, Focusing Oriented Therapist and Certifying Coordinator

 

“I really liked both theoretical and experiential learning. I was needing a more structured and systematic knowledge about dreamwork, and this course really provided me with that. It’s a beautiful foundation. I also liked our group very much, so many beautiful people with different backgrounds and sensitivities, and I think that all of us being honest and engaged together really contributed to the richness of experience.”

– Ivana Kolakovic, Registered Psychotherapist

 

“My most loved aspects were witnessing Leslie working with dreams in a group setting, and the intimacy of the group itself. I also loved the spaciousness in the container and the levity Leslie brought to the group. Clinically, I loved the experiential aspects of focusing and dreamwork combined.  As a result of taking this program, I now move slower with my dreams and I feel more connected to figures and aspects that show up. I also feel more resourced in my work with dreams.

Something else I loved about this program is that it wasn’t formulaic, but process oriented, which really supported the individual finding their own way. It was a nice blend of clinical and personal exploration.

I would also say another benefit is the small group size, because you really get to be in a safe and intimate space. It also provides an opportunity to try on others’ dream images and expand figures within your own dreamscape.”

– Jaclyn Woods, LMFT

 

“If you’re interested in working with dreams this is a solid, inspiring, practical, evidence-based method that has empowered me to connect more deeply with my own dream life and work with my clients and their dreams with confidence.”

– Kate Tenni, Sensorimotor Art Therapist and Grief Counsellor

 

About the Instructor(s) – Here are a few comments, thank you so much

Leslie has so so much knowledge but also this beautiful talent for attunement and sensitivity to track the dreamer’s internal life

10+! Leslie was brilliant! She was clear, flexible, so empathic. She created a lovely virtual space in which to be and work, and held each of us preciously when we shared.

Leslie is thoroughly knowledgeable, extremely skilled and competent, open and welcoming, responsive, flexible, clear, articulate, tech savvy, approachable.

Robbyn is also incredibly gifted.  The sessions with her were such a helpful supplement and practice time. (Robbyn assists with the class and offers a bonus dream session between class meetings.)

For more information about the ‘EE’ program, here is the link.

 

 

Sleep Paralysis… curse or blessing?

A first encounter with sleep paralysis (SP) is usually terrifying. But for those who experience it often and learn to stay calm, it can be entryway to lucid dreaming and extraordinary states.

Ryan Hurd, a sleep paralysis expert, has experienced hundreds of episodes himself and offers a road map for those who experience it. The following is a summary of his book, Sleep Paralysis, A Guide to Hynagogic Visions & Visitors of the Night.

In Hurd’s initial encounter with SP at age 14, all he wanted to do was wake up from the nightmare: first a ring, then a menacing voice that said, ‘Darkness rules!’ A pervasive felt sense of evil. The strong feeling of being pushed down forcibly into sleep. He was left feeling crazy, haunted and reticent to talk about his experience. It was classic a SP episode, and it deeply influenced the course of his life. He later became both a dream researcher, lecturer and lifelong lucid dreamer.

 

Symptoms of Sleep Paralysis

Hurd said the symptoms of SP are “near universal” and “noted throughout history and across cultures.” An episode might include one or more of the following:

Inability to move;
a feeling of great weight on your chest, abdomen and/or throat;
hearing buzzing or crackling sounds, or voices;
difficulty breathing;
heart racing;
extreme fear;
out-of-body experience;
electrical current or shock;
seeing lots of spiders or insects;
sensing, seeing and/or bring touched by an apparition or presence;
full awareness and a sense that what is happening is very real.

Isolated SP is common – about 40% of people experience it at least once in their lifetime (and a full 75% of post-secondary students). Alarming as it is, SP is a normal part of sleep, not pathological or a sign of psychosis.* It happens most often from sleep deprivation or disrupted sleep cycles (ie shift work, jet lag, late-night partying). It is an intrusion of REM/dreaming during the transition from wake-to-sleep or sleep-to-wake. In essence, your dreams are being superimposed onto the waking state. This is why the visions that arise can feel so real.

 

Ways to Manage Sleep Paralysis

Most people who experience SP occasionally simply want the hellish experience to stop. Hurd has found the following series of responses to be the most helpful:

  • Identify to yourself that you are having an eposide of SP
  • Surrender, don’t fight it (or it intensifies)
  • Wiggle your toes or clench a fist to break the paralysis
  • Focus on calm, steady breathing
  • Wait patiently for the episode to end, usually after a minute or two

Some people experience multiple episodes of sleep paralysis, or have a series of false awakenings. If you are worried about falling asleep and back into another episode, Hurd suggests you wake up more fully before going back to sleep:

  • Expose your eyes to bright light for a least a minute
  • Get up and do 10 minute of exercise
  • Write about the encouter in your journal

Then go back to sleep! Do not make things worse with even more sleep deprivation. To prevent SP, good sleep hygiene is essential… things like sleeping and waking at the same time every day, sleeping in a cool, dark, quiet place that you feel safe in, avoiding caffeine, alcohol and strenuous exercise too close to bedtime.

 

Get to Know the ‘Stranger’

For those who have learned to relax and go with the SP experience, and are brave and curious about the presence that appears to them, Hurd suggests turning toward the apparition with openness and trust (with the caveat that not all of the figures that appear are benign). However, if it feels available to you and safe enough, he suggests you relax, trust, be curious, ask what the stranger wants. These actions can transform the presence into something helpful and healing.

He notes that many tales of hauntings and magical creatures may in fact stem from sleep paralysis. A major clue is the timing of the visitation – if the presence appears at the edges of sleep, it is likely a hypnagogic hallucination. Vampires, the legend of the Sea Hag, ghosts, out-of-body experiences and even alien abductions may be attributed to sleep paralysis. It can also be a doorway to lucid dreaming and deeply spiritual encounters.

 

Sleep Paralysis as a Doorway to Extraordinary States

Despite his initially terrifying experiences with SP, Hurd now sees these as a “blessing in disguise.” If you recognize the state you are in as SP, you are already dreaming while awake, and can use this to co-create the kinds of dreams you would like to have. He suggest that once you have come to terms with your personal beliefs and have learned to relax into an SP state, you can “focus on the kinds of dreams you want to have and watch them materialize around you.”

He describes how you can use SP as an entrée into out-of-body experiences, lucid dreaming, creativity and spiritual growth.

Hurd even suggests ways to encourage SP (and of course do the opposite if you want to prevent it): Sleep on your back; take a nap when you are sleep-deprived or have jet-lag; or wake up 2 hours before your usual time, and nap later. When you nap while sleep-deprived, there is pressure to make up for a lack of REM sleep, and this intrusion of REM can induce the mixed state of SP.

The key message in all of this is that the valence of the visions which appear to us in a hynagogic state are dependent on the degree of safety we feel. The more frightened we are, the more terrifying the images that visit. It is an example of how we co-create dreams. If we stay calm, we can engage with the dream state while maintaining lucid awareness. Hurd notes that those new to lucid dreaming often treat it as a “virtual playground’ and invite fantasy experiences like flying or sex. But deepening into the experience can lead to truly extraordinary visions and “even a taste of enlightenment.”

 

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Reference:

Hurd, Ryan (2011). Sleep Paralysis, A Guide to Hynagogic Visions & Visitors of the Night. Los Altos, CA: Hyena Press.

*Symptoms of typical isolated sleep paralysis are not considered harmful – unless they include sleep apnea, narcolepsy or other parasomnias. If you have any concerns, consult a sleep medicine professional for diagnosis and treatment.

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Creating Safety in Dream Groups: Ideas from Ullman

What’s the single most important factor in a successful dream group?

Safety.

This may be why the method of Dream Appreciation by Montague Ullman is the most popular dream group method. Every step of the way, the dreamer’s safety is considered.

What maintains the dreamer’s sense of trust in the process? Confidentiality of course, and the ability of the dreamer to stop the process at any time. Beyond the obvious, the main consideration is the deepest respect for the dreamer and their dream.

This means no leading questions or imposition of ideas from the group, however brilliant they may seem. Ullman said, “The goal is to lead the dreamer into a dialogue with their own dream.” Anything else “shifts the dreamer’s attention from the dream to the motives of the questioner.”

He uses the analogy of curling to help us understand this concept. In curling, the skip (aka dreamer) sends the rock towards its target. The sweepers clear the path for the rock, help it on its intended journey, but do not change its course. “We respect the importance of the dreamer, staying with the path of the dream rather than deflecting them into a path of our own making.”

Ullman advises against offering interpretations, ideas about symbolic meaning, or anything from outside what the dream itself contains. “I don’t think it is ever truly therapeutic to approach a dreamer with an a priori conviction about what a dream means based on a particular theory or preconceived ideas about what certain images mean.”

What kinds of inquiries should dream group members offer then? Ideally open-ended questions with no agenda other than helping the dreamer to further open the dream itself. Our questions “should always lead back to the dream.”

Questions with an agenda promote defensiveness. But if there is trust and safety, “the clarity of one’s emotional vision becomes sharper and deeper. Trust opens the dreamer up to the possiblity of discovery.”

 

From: Ullman, M. (1996). Appreciating Dreams, a group approach. Sage Publications.

Jungian Dreamwork and Focusing: Delving Deeper in the Experience of Dreaming

This article brings together my two favorite approaches in psychotherapy and personal growth: that of dreamwork and focusing. In my work, they are intertwined in ways that make it difficult to tease apart, so I am taking this opportunity to articulate the way they both differ and complement each other. I will highlight the work of Jungian dream workers who favor experiential processing, and will also summarize Eugene Gendlin’s ideas about how to work with dreams.

 

The Jungian approach to dreams

Although my interest in dreams is lifelong, I first formally studied dreamwork at Pacifica Graduate Institute, one of North America’s foremost schools for Jungian and depth psychology. While there are some branches of Jungian thought that can get quite theoretical, this is not the approach taken at Pacifica, where they stress the experiential aspects of depth psychology. There are strong parallels between the many dreamwork methods that I consider both Jungian and focusing-oriented. They key to both is the felt experience of the dreamer.

Carl Jung posited that there is not only a personal unconscious from which dream material arises, but also a collective unconscious common to all mankind and that truly numinous dreams have this kind of power. He called these universal forces archetypes, motifs familiar to us all: child, father, mother, lover, wise man/woman and so on.

Jung developed an extensive theory about the meaning of dreams, and believed dream workers should possess vast knowledge of myths, legends and symbols that could appear in any dream so as to amplify the personal aspect of the dream image into something more collective or archetypal. However, it is a mistake to assume that he was imposing all of this onto dreams from an academic pedestal. In fact, he was very interested in the lived experience of dreams, and developed a technique he called active imagination, suggesting that dreamers re-enter the dreamworld and continue where the dream left off, dreaming it onward in the therapy session and beyond. These experiential techniques are very like Gendlin’s focusing, an experiential method of inquiring into the body.

The beauty of dreamwork is that it can take many forms. One can work with a dream on a personal level and make great leaps forward in consciousness. One can also approach the dream in a sacred way that brings one closer to the universal source of dreaming and feel touched by its numinosity. I think the reason dreams are so fascinating is that they are truly magical, truly other and if one enters the experience of the dreaming, one cannot help but be enlarged by it. In fact, many dream experts believe the main purpose of dreaming is just that: to enlarge our perspective; sometimes they do this gently, and sometimes in a shocking manner. At times, a shock can be just what’s needed to jolt us out of outmoded ways of being.

 

Approaches to dreams from depth psychologists

Jungian scholars whose interest is depth psychology focus on the experience of dreaming; they talk about less mining of the dream for personal insight, and more about tending the dream. They often use focusing extensively in the way they do dreamwork though they may not use that term. In the course of their work, they have developed a reverence for the dreamtime. They ask not, how can the dream serve me, but, how can I serve the dream? What does it ask of me?

James Hillman (1979) in The Dream and the Underworld took issue with the modern method of mining dreams for personal meaning. He is a thinker, a contrarian and likes to turn widely-accepted ideas on their heads. Hillman said he follows Freud and Jung in some of their ideas: “Freud by insisting that the dream has nothing to do with the waking world but is psyche speaking to itself in its own language: and Jung by insisting that the ego requires adjustment to the night world. I shall not be following them in bringing the dream into the dayworld in any other form than its own, implying that the dream may not be envisaged either as a message to be deciphered for the dayworld (Freud) or as a compensation to it (Jung)” (p. 13).

Hillman goes on to say that the only valid way to approach dreaming is to enter into its underworld realm, subjecting ourselves to the descent, not trying to use it for our own purposes. He does not think we need to add anything, or compensate from what’s not there. “Each dream has its own fulcrum and balance, compensates itself, is complete as it is… We cannot see the soul until we experience it, and we cannot understand the dream until we enter it “ (p. 80).

Hillman eschews the gestalt tradition of having dreamers enter into the experience of various dream figures as though they are parts of one’s own psyche. “This mode of dream interpretation becomes just one more modern way of inflating the ego” (p. 99).

Still, entering into the consciousness of various dream figures remains an accepted means of working a dream. Robert Bosnak (1996) is one modern dream worker who relies heavily on this Gestalt method. He says that,  “While dreaming, there are several different carriers of consciousness.”  We most often experience our dreams from the point of view of our dream ego, but Bosnak believes “one of the purposes of dreamwork is to experience the dream from as many facets as possible.”

He talks about making transits into the experience of other dream figures, to relinquish briefly our habitual point of view and enter into something that is other. In fact, one can enter into not just the people and animals in a dreamscape, but any significant feature. He offers an example of a man who enters into a deep freeze. “This brings about a change of attitude, a different sense of being alive” (p. 54).

Bosnak believes we can work only with living dreams, ones in which we are still able to re-enter the dreaming experience. Fresh dreams can be from years past, but most are recent. They are dreams where we can still sense in a bodily way. Bosnak asks dreamers to go very slowly back into the dream recalling as much detail as possible, paying particular attention to the others in the dream. He suggests you drop down into a liminal state and then enter into the consciousness of the other in your dream through sensing into your body. He calls is making a “transit” (p. 44) into the dream other. This is very similar to the focusing move of entering the felt sense from its point of view.

The attitude is a focusing one of curiosity, acceptance, and a sense that there is autonomy in what we are encountering, something to resonate with, not something we try to bend to our will.  Both focusing and dreamwork take place in the imaginal world, the world of image. There is a sense of autonomy about the image, as in working with the felt sense. We can experience it but we do not control its movements.

Pacifica founder Stephen Aizenstat (2009) does believe in talking to the animals and other figures in dreams, but respectfully and only once one has built a relationship to the dream figure. His favorite approach to a dream is the question, “Who’s visiting now?” This, followed by  a receptive, clear space in which the dream itself can respond, in the present, in a living, embodied way.

Aizenstat suggests a way of working with dreams beyond the Freudian idea of association, or the Jungian idea of amplification, to that of animation. Aizenstat calls his practice dream tending — working with the living image. Although it is not a felt sense, the interaction with the dream figure has many qualities similar to focusing: the act of bringing your open, curious attention to it. Its autonomy. The need to stay with it even when it might appear scary — that with our loving attention to it, from an observing, safe distance, it will transform, as will what it represents in our life.

 

Eugene Gendlin on Focusing and Dreams

Gendlin (1986) offers a similar perspective in his approach to working with dreams. Although he posits his methods of dreamwork as a long series of potential questions to ask of the dream, the attitude he suggests one should bring to these questions is not one of interrogation. Like Aizenstat, he suggests that one should “love and enjoy the dream whether you interpret it or not” (p. 27).

He sees great value in dreamwork, and even suggests it is as a shortcut to learning how to do focusing. He says the hardest part of learning how to focusing is letting a felt sense come. “With a dream, that is often easy. A dream usually brings you a felt sense. If not, it soon comes if you attend your body while pondering the dream” (p. 3). Gendlin sees dreamwork as having two stages: the breakthrough, where you discover what the dream is about and a second stage, where you get something new from the dream.

He also introduces a technique he calls bias control to help someone working with their own dreams overcome the natural tendency to interpret a dream based on what one already knows. This basically entails entertaining the opposite of what we might be drawn to, entering into the consciousness of a dream figure we dislike, for example. “A new growth direction is often the opposite of what we value most. That doesn’t mean we change our value to the opposite, not at all. We merely expand them a little” (p. 61).

 

Completing the dream process: Carrying forward

If you go through the experiential process of fully tending a dream, it will require not just a widening of perspective, but some sort of concrete action or ritual to ground and symbolize the change in you. An even better way to look at it might be: what are you going to offer in response to this dream? These lines of dreamwork practice we have been following ask that we ponder how we will serve the dream, rather than how it will serve us.

In Gendlin’s model, this may come in the form of an action step, some small but concrete step we can take in response to the dream. He gives an example where a man’s “dream points to a small action step he might not otherwise have thought of. This may seem a tiny step when compared with the whole regime this dreamer might need… As you will see if you try them, small action steps have a lot of power. They are hard to do. They let you encounter and work through what is in your way. They change you… Only action ultimately resolves more problems. Therefore action steps are needed as an integral part of what dreams mean… and only in actions does your body get to live the new way for more than a few symbolic moments!” (p. 114).

 

Dreaming from the Source

Dreams and the felt sense in focusing come from the same source, what Whitmont calls the Guiding Self, or Jung’s Self, a “superior, if archaic intelligence, bent on offering meaningful new attitudes,” (Whitmont Perera, p. 17).

Both focusing and dreamwork are difficult to do alone because of this — because they offer a viewpoint different from our customary one. Dreams are perhaps further from the ego’s standpoint because they often originate from deeper in the unconscious. Or, they may originate entirely outside of our realm of consciousness in a realm all their own. Either way, they are a stretch for us to grapple with. They offer growth potential, but also the potential to be disruptive or disturbing. Focusing is more of a middle ground between dreams and ego, and focusing on dreams is yet another intermediate step, bridging the gap between dream and ego, making dreams more accessible and potentially accelerating change.

Dreams are a product of the life force within us, as is the felt sense we contact through focusing. There are no bad dreams. The question is how to come into relationship with them, as you would a felt sense, to gain ‘life-forward’ momentum. And then, how do you embody this shift in the world?

 

References

Aizenstat, S. (2009) Dream Tending, New Orleans, Louisiana: Spring Journal Inc.

Boa, F. (1988) The Way of the Dream, Boston, Mass., Shambhala Publications.

Bosnak, R. (1996) Tracks in the Wilderness of Dreaming, New York: Delta Publishing  a division of Bantam Doubleday Dell.

Freud, S. (1909) The Interpretation of Dreams, New York: Modern Library, Random House (1950 edition).

Hillman, J. (1979) The Dream and the Underworld, New York: Harper and Row.

Gendlin, E.T. (1986) Let Your Body Interpret Your Dreams, Wilmette, Illinois: Chiron Publications.

Jung, C.J. Collected Works. Bollingen Series, Princeton University Press.

Jung, C.J. (1961) Memories, Dreams, Reflections, New York: Random House.

Whitmont, E. and Perera, S. (1989) Dreams, A Portal to the Source, London: Routledge.

 

Why Do We Dream? Maybe We Should Ask Our Bodies

Mark Blumberg, a University of Iowa researcher, has a new idea about why we dream – it’s our body mapping itself while we sleep. His research, recently featured in the New Yorker magazine, is a departure from existing theories that suggest in dreaming, we are making sense of our experiences, consolidating memories, processing emotions, possibly imagining things we fear or wish for – no one can yet say for sure.

Blumberg got curious about why newborn babies need 8 hours of dream-rich rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, while most adult humans need about one-quarter of that. He also wondered what babies have to dream about since they have not yet had any experiences to process. He also noticed that all animals, from sleeping dogs to the rat pups in his lab, twitch and jerk when in REM.

Are the dogs’ paws twitching because they are chasing imaginary rabbits in their dreams? Blumberg severed the connection between rat brain and body, and the twitching continued – suggesting these movements are not related to what we dream in our minds. He wondered if the reverse was true: that the movements were sending messages from body to brain.

Blumberg wired electrodes to the areas of the rat’s brain associated with movement, and assigned a different sound to each selected neuron. The amazing result was that each time the rat’s paw twitched, sounds would reverberate from the brain. Based on this, Blumberg articulated a theory that the brain uses REM sleep to map out the body, one muscle at a time.

During REM sleep, neuroscientists have long understood that the body is paralyzed from the neck down, presumably to keep us from acting out our dreams. Blumberg’s research suggests another possibility – that sleep paralysis allows our bodies to move a single, discrete muscle at a time, which enables discrete sensorimotor connections to form.

 

The body is implicated more deeply in dreaming than we thought

When people ask me how to better recall their dreams, I suggest they lie still upon waking, as this seems to make it easier to remember what they were just dreaming. This may be related to what Blumberg has discovered, a connection from the body that feeds the dreaming brain.

For the New Yorker article, Amanda Gefter interviewed Jennifer Windt, a professor of philosophy of mind and author of Dreaming, a book that explores what dreams can tell us about consciousness. Windt suggests the brain is not the centre of consciousness, mediating all that we experience, because what’s happening in our bodies shapes our dreams – for example through body positions that prompt memories, which are woven into our dreams. She told the New Yorker, “It’s through recognizing the contributions of the body that we can begin to understand why dreams feel the way they do.”

 

Reference

Gefter, A. What Are Dreams For? New Yorker, August 31, 2023.

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Resistant to Your Dream Life? Here’s why you should push through it

Resistance to dreaming comes in many forms, and may be part of the reason we collectively forget so many of our dreams. In a dominant culture that leans toward the rational, empirical side of things, the magical, mysterious and unseen aspects of our existence can be lost or dismissed.

Lost or dismissed. This seems to be the fate of so many of our dreams. Even I, who spend much of my time studying, appreciating, writing and teaching about dreams, feel a resistance to them at times, unable to make time for them, too quick to think I understand them already. These are classic forms of dream resistance – to dismiss them as meaningless or as already understood. Yet when I do make time for my dreams, through art, imagination or discussion with others, the rewards are rich. I experience heartfelt connection with my dream partners and a deeper connection to myself and the larger world.

In my years of teaching clinical dreamwork and guiding dream journeys, it has often felt as though the path I’m travelling is slightly uphill, upwind, upstream; in some form or another, I encounter a fairly steady stream of resistance. One of my students had the courage to name this, and an interesting discussion ensued about the many forms of resistance to our dream lives. We often dream of emotional, provocative, deeply personal and at times difficult things, so it makes sense to have some resistance to turning toward all that, and especially to sharing it.

 

Interpetation as Disrespect for the Dream

One reason for the resistance to sharing dreams is the common experience that if we tell a dream to someone, they will impose meaning on it that may not be welcome or resonant. There is a tendency, based on popular but outdated notions, that dreams have a definitive meaning, that there are universal symbols, and if you learn these, you can tell someone what their dream means, what it says about them, and what they should do in response.

In fact, modern dreamwork is not like this. The International Association for the Study of Dreams actually states in its own bylaws that imposing a definition on someone else’s dream is not only unwelcome, but not even ethical. Still, the idea of dream interpretation persists widely, and dream dictionaries remain among the most popular ways of deciphering dream images.

What my dream-resistant student lamented, having been a victim of overly interpretive dreamwork herself, is that such dissection and analysis takes away the magic and mystery inherent in dreams. She asked, can we just enjoy them and all their strange, fantastic imagery without having to work at them or come up with a way to explain them? Can we just love the dream for its own sake, as we would a piece of art or breathtaking sunset?

 

Dream Loss as Resistance to Dreams

Sleep and dream researcher Rubin Naiman speaks of an epidemic of sleep loss, which he suggests is actually dream loss. He says that, collectively, we are resistant to our dreams because dreaming expands our consciousness, and unless you are someone who has psychologically and spiritually prepared for such a thing, this expansiveness can be scary and disorienting. In our collective culture, there tends to be a narrowing of our consciousness. We spend more time focused in little screens, less on being outside under the vast open sky – both literally and figuratively. So when we start dreaming, and we enter into an expanded sense of consciousness, this can feel threatening enough to affect sleep.

I would suggest that not only do dreams reflect a larger consciousness, but that they also reflect our deepest emotional life. This may also be something that we tend to resist in various ways – through overwork and busyness, through use of substances that numb us, and via attention to the many distractions at our fingertips.

However, as my student astutely observed, her resistance wasn’t the only force at work. After all, here she was, in a year-long dream course speaking about her lifelong fascination with dreams, and her strong desire to protect their profound and magical qualities. This resonated with the dreamers present – that we entertain our dreaming lives alongside and despite the resistance to them because the pull toward our dreams is even stronger than the resistance. We can respect our hesitation around dreaming, and at the same time, can feel and appreciate their consciousness-expanding properties, their wider wisdom and their creative genius.